“The best way to FORGIVE… is to FORGET.”
Is that statement true? Well, I guess it’s true, but let’s see…
People make mistakes. We can’t help it, we’re not perfect and no one is. Some people could hurt us and sometimes we could hurt others. Hurting each other is apparently a bad thing and could end up into a mess, sometimes very messy, so we should stop it. How? One of those two people should forgive the other one. But how? That’s the difficult part.
Well, I frankly consider myself a forgiving person and an experienced one. People hurt me but ended up still being okay with them. We will end up like there was nothing bad happened between the two of us. I should share my experiences to elaborate my point but honestly I don’t want to remember them.
The best thing to do to forgive is to LOWER YOUR PRIDE. Your pride naturally gets out from you when someone hurt you or when you hurt someone, it’s automatic. When someone hurt you, you will say “why should I forgive him/her?! It’s his/her fault. He/she should apologize.” and when you hurt someone, “why should I apologize?! It’s not my fault.” Imagine that. What would happen with the two of you if both has those mindsets. Will you be okay with each other? Will it stop? Basically of course no~! It will just stop if one will lower his/her pride and apologize or forgive the other one.
But what if the mistake is too big? If someone hurt you and it became an impact to you, your emotions. What if? The answer is simple but difficult to do… STILL FORGIVE especially if that person is a person you love. Of course no one can hurt you and will become an impact to you if it’s not one of the people you love. But because you love them… you will FORGIVE them. Now, you’re a strong person, why? You are enough to be strong to handle that impact to your life but still forgive. If your mother will say a very harsh thing about you, forgive her. When your brother will punch you at your back, forgive him. If you still love your ex but broke almost all her promises, forgive her. Strong people forgive…
But what if those mistakes were repeated? Will you forgive again and again? Stupid but yes… again and again. But in a different way, FORGET. Forget those mistakes. Forget, so you will not be hurt again. I have my own term there, it’s IGNORE. Ignore those mistakes for they are repetitive. Ignore her broken promises because you are used to it. You are not just strong now but intelligent, for you have learned to forget or ignore his/her mistakes. Intelligent people ignore…
The statement is right; the best way to forgive is to forget. :)
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